Belief is an unquantifiable phenomenon in this thing we call life. Belief in the competency of another, in a given situation, can lure us from the eternal exile of ‘safe spaces’ to voyage and evolve as a result. It can inspire us to wander out into the great and formidable unknown and empower us to conquer our inner-most demons…and reach the summit of our grandest desires. That’s an amazing anomaly! I mean, if traced to its precise root, one could easily close their eyes…peer into the deep and desolate past of this world to imagine that moment of its inception. Absolutely humbling. You see, Belief, for lack of a better word, is the manifestation of something’s desire to not stop at curiosity or to be halted by the archaic anatomical mechanisms that regulate our fears, desires and our movements in the world. It is the precise moment that something transcends into ‘someone’. However, while immensely empowering from the singular perspective, when belief is harnessed and weaponized it can make philosophical prisoners of us all. There must be a balance, one that evolves and takes into healthy consideration of the individual, and their desire to find peace in their own existence. Having said this, how does one employ belief in their life to further their pursuits of happiness and success? Are belief and faith doppelgangers, distant cousins or perversions by the latter of the former? Truly profound questions, ones that have been at the center of humankind’s evolution of self-awareness for eons.
So, how do we transition from ‘something’ to that rather profound and dearly sought after ‘someone’ so clearly envisioned in our dreams? Well, the answer is rather simple: be approximal. You mustn’t tether yourself to a fixated anything – be it a person, precise idea of profession, a specific portrait of happiness, or even a narrowed view on the structuring of your belief’s in relation to the organization of collective faith. Essentially, by freeing yourself from the excruciatingly burdensome yoke of precise expectation in the emotional or philosophical realm of your own consciousness, you allow life to unfold as it tends to; without a great deal of precise delivery – example: at age six you may have dreamed of being an astronaut, and at twenty-six, maybe, you become an electrical engineer. Not PRECISELY the profession you desired at the tender age of six, but the result is something approximal – shifted by the circumstances bound to arise in the seven-thousand and three-hundred plus days betwixt the two points.
You see, Life rarely, nay, doesn’t happen EXACTLY as we planned it – even if the plan is executed, in act, precisely as planned. Meaning, you can execute something like, say, desiring to be married and with ‘x-amount’ of children by a certain age. And yes, you can achieve this, but those are the expressions of the far more important variable in the equation – being, did you achieve this and the happiness you assumed that it would bring? Clearly, as evidenced by the rate of divorce and relative unhappiness people feel in regards to their relationship, most folks have put far too much emphasis on the ‘box-checking’ that we think Life expects of us.
Now, that isn’t without some sound reasoning. I mean, we, by virtue of being the immensely complex and articulated packets of dna-carrying chemistry, are designed to pursue such things – children and a stable mate. But sometimes, if not most times, we find ourselves losing ourselves in the pursuit of someone else – especially, if the pursuit of someone else validates one’s sense of self. In other words, if your sole aim is to complete a picture of happiness you have in your head, well, you’re ignoring what makes the ‘picture’ beautiful and necessary to Life – in that, if you view something that doesn’t make you feel something profound, you’re likely staring at the wrong damned picture. Venture onward until you gaze upon something that is worthy of your foveal attention; not beheld to another’s periphery.
So much of consciousness is wrought in the view of ‘self’ in relation to another – we, as consciousness has become more articulated throughout the eons of collective thought and feeling, are drawn to the shared consciousness found in deep intimacy. That is why some couples, for a lack of better words, share a brain – i.e. their consciousness. They can share each other’s dreams, desires, and the approximal goal of getting from where they are now, to where they should be nearer at some point in the future, and they do this with the utmost synchronization emotionally. It is an astounding thing to see two separate entities become ‘one’ and labor in the pursuit of something. Like, say, watching ants build and rebuild in both the realms of pursuing ‘the happy place’ and rebuilding the manifestation of their labors when calamity strikes – i.e. some exterior malevolent forces smashing their mound into disarray.
Interestingly enough; not unlike ants, we suffer calamity in these perfect unions, but unlike ants…our malevolent forces come from the outside by what has been held within. Typically, in this regard, the form they come in are lies that were present at the moment of synchronization to one another – “I don’t want children, but want children for him or her”, “I have feelings unresolved for someone else, but do not have the courage to confront the reality that these feelings will go forever unrequited – and for good damn reason, too.”, “I love what he/she loves as much as he/she loves it, but am not secure enough to admit that such things are NOT the sole foundation to build affection for one another.”, etc.
Yes, great calamities befall us too. Ones like, infidelity, addiction, abusive behavior, and ‘the fall’ some experience as the stakes grow larger in ‘the game’. But they all stem from the subtle moments, the ones in which the microscopic lie or ‘fib’ grows into the terrifying mass that ultimately ends the harmony with the sync between two lives and respective hearts. And sometimes, if not most times, those they create or those who have become to expect their synchronizing presence in their life [children, close friends, and in-laws] will be left wandering about trying to find some familiar force to which they can anchor their emotions to. Your decisions, regardless of your intent, WILL impact someone else – not simply, something else.
Indeed, consciousness is something that grows more complex each moment, and it accelerates at an unfathomable rate when we attempt to augment finite realities – such as, altering life’s natural laws of creation. We cannot create which is not ‘there’, and we will not be successful at all levels of the plan, regardless of the at-a-glance view of the project upon ‘completion’. Much like, in Physics, you cannot destroy energy…well, you cannot softly put to rest a lie, and lies are the enemy of intimacy and the harmony found therein. In other words, don’t lie at any level of consciousness and be surprised when things go horribly wrong – whether it is your religious ‘beliefs’ not manifesting themselves into precise prosperity, not reaching your professional goals after taking the ‘faking it til you make it’ approach, or simply not being true to yourself and others when engaging in the high-stakes game of synchronizing Life with one another.
Like Physics, your poor math (i.e. the lie) will cause an imbalance so staggering that it’ll insert an irreversible chaos into your little universe. So, don’t behold yourself to precise destinations. Your math, none of our’s, can possibly compensate enough to overcome inevitable inaccuracy that lie [poor math] is to create. Now, this doesn’t mean to be rude or to not try your best to relate to someone else. It simply means, don’t lie about who you are, feel, believe, and want in pursuit of who you want to believe feels something for you or in you. That, in any universe, is a fool’s errand. So yeah, explore consciousness through exploring the consciousness of another. Try your best to relate to another, be polite and considerate of his/her beliefs, feelings, past, desires for the future, and certain shortcomings. But whatever you do, don’t put your shortcomings, your misunderstandings of the future, your interior view of YOUR past, and the certainly ‘poor math’ in condemning another’s beliefs solely based on your unitary belief structure.
Again, failing to be yourself and to respect the ‘self’ of others, these are greatest and most profound stumbling blocks to ‘enlightenment’. As a wise, and seriously accurate-as-all-hell, spiritual shaman once told me, “There are a thousand words for Apple, I’m sure there are an infinite number for God”…So, just like it is wrong to assume YOUR view of creation is the ONLY acceptable view, it is also wrong to want love or respect from another without doing so yourself – which, if you hadn’t experienced thus far in life, requires some work and isn’t some novel-esque portrayal of ‘perfection’. People aren’t perfect – their math is poor. However, accepting the mutual imperfections, well, that is agreeing to erase the obvious error of lying and moving forward into the uncertain synchronal dance that is human consciousness.
Belief, yet again, is the summation of eons of gradually progressive self-awareness and acceptance. Any other interpretation wanders too close to the extremes of a particular origin or terminus, and none of us have acquired the ‘math’ to possibly know or adequately fathom such thing. So…
Be approximal – your math isn’t good enough to land on a lie.
Be imperfect – the acknowledgement of imperfection is perfectly natural.
Be many things, but above all, be real.
Be curious enough to explore another.
Be brave enough to be explored.